“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
God has a plan for your life. He has a plan for your marriage. Using the assessment from Dare 3, write a positive purpose statement describing how and who you intend to be in your marriage in four months.
Using the results of the quiz, write a personal purpose statement describing how you intend to change. It doesn’t need be to be long (perhaps one handwritten page), but it needs to be as descriptive and specific as possible.
Write your purpose statement as if it is already true. Use words such as “I am” instead of “I will,” “I want to be,” or “I will try.” Use positive language. Try to avoid “I don’t” or ” I won’t.”
Here’s an example of a purpose statement:
Don’t worry if whether or not what you write is currently true. What’s important is you write a statement detailing what you think God wants for you and the kind of wife He wants you to be.
Here’s an example of my purpose statement:
I am a confident woman of God. I walk by faith, not by sight. I pray daily with my husband and find my strength in the Lord. My decisions are based on what pleases God. I’m grateful for all He has done for me. I enjoy spending time with Him and in His word almost everyday.
I respect my husband and show him affection. I make him feel desirable by initiating sex with him. I build him up. I’m his encourager, and he confides in me. Because of this, my home is a peaceful place for my family.
I communicate well with others. I’m respected among my friends and family. They frequently seek my advice. They trust I’ll give sound, biblical advice with their best interests at heart. I’m also a respected and sought after speaker in my community. Women want to listen to what I say because I speak the truth in Christ through a window of humor and transparency. When speaking to friends and my husband, I spend more time listening than I do trying to get my point across. I use a respectful tone when talking to my husband. I never bash him to others or in front of my children.
I believe the Lord is using my marriage as a vehicle to reach others. I look forward to the Lord’s plans for my marriage and have the confidence to carry out what He wants me to do.
Rewrite your purpose statement as a prayer, and put it somewhere you’ll see it everyday.
DARE: Begin praying this prayer daily as you go through the remaining two weeks.
If you’re comfortable, post your purpose statement on The Not So Excellence Wives Club private Facebook group page.
*Source: The Respect Dare by Nina Roesner