There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Shame was my companion for way too long.
Even though I know Jesus took my shame, sometimes, I don’t act like it. I can still feel unworthy and unloveable. And–if I’m brutally honest–sometimes deep down I fear if you really knew me, you wouldn’t like me.
Paul wrote Romans 8:1 to believers. Why would he need to remind believers we are in a state of no condemnation? Because shame is a powerful and it is a perennial. It just keeps coming back. It pops up in your life in places you’re not expecting it.
Shame is actually a healthy response to sin. We should feel shame when we dishonor God, and it should motivate us to repent. But the shame I felt wasn’t healthy. My expectations fueled my shame and I felt bad about things I had no reason to feel bad about.
If Jesus died for our shame, how can we combat it? Through connection and compassion. These are components to God’s remedy for shame.
Talking about our shame with people helps validate our feelings. And, it may help us realize the way we see things isn’t always correct.
We can only share with others by being connected. When we’re in relationship with other people and we share our struggles, we can receive compassion.
God tells us to rejoice with the happy and to mourn with the sad. By being connected to others, we can lessen shame’s impact. Others can remind us our debt has been paid. We do not live in a state of condemnation.
Application: Identify someone you trust to share to share your story with.
Prayer: Lord, when shame resurfaces in my life, remind me I am not longer condemned. Help me identify safe people in my life so I can share my story with them, shed a light on shame and shred its power in my life.
If you have questions or if something had an impact on you this week, please email and let me know. If you want to continue the journey on your own, I’d be happy to recommend resources. If not, don’t be afraid to contact a counselor or pastor.